The Voice from the other side

It was business as usual for me and my buddies as we hit the road on our spontaneous road trips. We were so spontaneous that we never had to plan for a trip. Well, that is what being spontaneous is all about.

It was the 27th April of 2011, and someone suggested we go see some girl in BU he met via a radio show and later make a quick stop in the deeper part of Ijebu to see some girls we all knew but haven’t seen in a while. Anyway, we did all that and on our way back, we changed route and head to Otta to see another buddy of ours. Things were good, we were all high spirited, full of joy and could not be happier of our lives. Until I lost control of the car. Continue reading “The Voice from the other side”

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The Family Without Boundaries

Prologue: Chapter 1


Dapo and Nkem have been “happily married” for 15 years.

Chuks and Dapo are best of friends, they have been buddies since they could remember.

Nkem and Morowa (Chuks’ wife) are not friends neither are they enemies. Well, Morowa is not her enemy.

Of the 15 years Nkem has been married, she has been sleeping with Chuks for 15. Infact, they still had one for the road two days before their wedding. Oh! Both couples had a duet wedding. Same day, same place, same guests.

Morowa has been Dapo’s physician for 11 years and she is very aware that his wife and Chuks have been bedding each other. ‘Never told Dapo and never stopped being his doctor. But, Dapo will forever be her lab rat.

Chuks never knew his Wife; Morowa is bi-sexual, and found out that Dapo was aware and for the past 2years she has been seeing at least three of Dapo’s co-workers; his Personal assistant; Daisy, ; Head of communications; Ms. Whitney and the CTO; Ama. He also suspected a little something with the maid; Brenda. He terminated the maid’s contract without raising an alarm and till date, he has not confronted Dapo for not telling him nor his wife for cheating. Continue reading “The Family Without Boundaries”

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System Development 101 -Introduction

The nature of every project determines the best approach to use for the development of any system, and more than one approach could be combined depending on the circumstances of the environment of such project.

Project is a planned activity that has a beginning, well-defined plan of action and an end. System development also follows the project rule and it usually results in the development of a new system or modification of an existing system. Although, in the development of a system it is not a stringent rule that all the requirements are known in advance as the developmental process gives room for adaptions to changes within such environment (dependent on the development methodology).

Systems Development Life Cycle (SLDC) “is the process of creating or modifying existing systems and the models and methodologies that are used in the process.” The Systems Development Life Cycle could either be a Predictive or Adaptive approach.

  1. Structured/Predictive approach: This approach concludes that development can be well planned and the new system can be developed according to plan without interference.
  2. Adaptive approach: The adaptive approach allows the development of systems be adaptable and flexible to changing circumstances of projects.

Continue reading “System Development 101 -Introduction”

Note Through The Lady of Steel

Remember


  • You can’t control what happens to you but you can control its interpretation.
  • Nothing is permanent. Be contented but never comfortable. Always do more.
  • The world owes you nothing. Suck it up!
  • Somethings are not just worth it. Learn to shoulder shrug and move on.
  • Stand up for yourself and family.
  • Fight for your right to live. But let “fighting” come last.
  • There is a first time for everything except for things you do not do. Stop moaning & bitching!
  • Be focused & consistent. You might be worse at first but you will get better. Much better.
  • Children learning how to walk never quit trying, so, be an adult and don’t even think about it. Never quit!
  • Learn to listen to people but only take what is relevant to you. Often times, people will only tell you what they want you to hear. Only your decision counts.
  • Your decision is a bad decision only if you regret it. If you can stand by it, you’ll get better at it and learn to trust your intuition. Who knows, you might notice a pattern in how you form your thoughts.

Men are just another half. First, be a strong and complete half. Fuck it, Be WHOLE!

It is easy to complain about your life, but when you step into others shoes for a day, you will find out people have greater problems and your life may just be perfect if you choose to see it that way.

Be comfortable in your own skin.

– ‘Kayode Bisiriyu

Picture: Thrive Global

SERENDIPITY

Prologue: Chapter 1


My ship is stranded in the middle of the Atlantic with no crew I could call my own. Jumping ship means going for a swim in the deep blue, for what exactly? Perhaps, if I could speak shark it would have been different. Even If I could, from experience there is always one rogue member of the family whose level of tolerance is fixed at zero and I am not about to find out. In a way, it is a win-win, no intrusion-no devouring! It might be good to stress that we are still not sure of how we got here.

Before we departed, we set our minds to finding something beyond anyone could imagine. We were blank, no idea whatsoever. All we had was faith and our soon to be heard stories which will change us and most importantly the world. No kidding. After all, we are the artisans of our fates and of several others.

In-between the thousand breadth of the ocean, the billion sea inhabitants, there has to be something. Not anything, but that which we never knew, greater and magical. We named the voyage SERENDIPITY and we dreamt that our lives will forever be changed.

I Hope You Find Your Heartbeat

Not everyone would live but everyone will die! There have been times that I wondered what goes through people’s mind when they get the chance to “witness” their last breath. Do they suddenly get those “my life in summary flashes”? (Oh! I’ve been there. Yo! The flashes are real) Do they pray? or do some just say fuck it, I’ve lived! Does living mean not having regrets at that moment or just having the courage to accept?  Eiish! Such courage would definitely be a product of spirituality. So many questions but for the sake of retaining the little sanity of the mind, digging deeper is a no no.

While connecting the dots of all my experiences; the YOLO moments, few reads, travel… Undeniably, there are few things people leave behind; in fact, there are three. Children (for those who had), creations and the impact of actions.

“When we take a journey into the past and reflect on those actions that served no higher purpose other than maximizing wealth and pleasure, you would agree that they always seem painfully small and insignificant. Most people know this, and either explicitly or intuitively want to be part of a collective purpose that is larger than their own pleasure, that gives meaning to their lives and passage of time.”

Most of us struggle to stay on course with our purpose, to define who we are, to summon the courage to weaken or break walls, to be more than those we admire, to show the Xs’ and bosses that we are better on our own, to laugh when our problems take the most of us, to fight when there seems to be no fight left in us, to love when we’ve been let down so many times. Take two steps backwards (literally) to remind yourself that the struggle is part of the process and you have to trust it. And your ability to define a noble purpose and to give meaning to people’s effort will become your heartbeat.
To an organization like Microsoft, ”empowering every person and organization on the planet to achieve more” is beyond thoughts put into words, rather its life and heartbeat.

I hope you find your heartbeat.

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Who Needs New Year Resolutions?

‘Never been a believer of the resolution thing. Hollup… back up a little bit and try saying shitty resolution. Ahh… I feel so light. You don’t? It does not matter, this is about me.

Angus-Phil

I mean, who am I kidding? I always find myself going back to the things I told myself I would not do, maybe I need to learn self-control or some things are just meant to be. Fate comes to mind. There has never been a new year resolution and never will.

Reflection is what I identify with. Do something, reflect on the outcomes, take the lessons out of it and set goals with plans of action. I think that was how learning from experience came about. It has to be. A typical resolution would be to stop smoking in the New Year. Whilst it is a reasonable one, it makes no sense without a plan of action. Try, I will stop smoking in the New Year and I will start by cutting the numbers of sticks by 25% or 50% over the next 6 months and I will celebrate milestones every month until the mission is accomplished.

Resolution is to know you deserve to be punched in the face by a mantis shrimp but you would rather put out a notice for cuddling (Wimp!). Reflection on the other hand is deleting words you type every time you mistype a letter. If you are an earthling, I do not expect you to understand. It is so typical of humans.

I hope with these no/few points of mine I have been able to convince you and not confuse you to invest your time in reflection, at least twice a week for 15 minutes (please feel free to swap least with most). It also helps to keep a journal. If you are someone of no talent like the ‘typer’ of these words, putting your thoughts in writing might just be the bank you sometimes fantasize about breaking.

.^. And they both lived happily ever after .^.

You need to expand the scope of your imaginations, build castles in air, break into the president’s apartment and steal a sock (remember, in your head), undress the hostess (to you bloody perverts, do nothing, I repeat do nothing except dressing her back up), run into your ex (…). If you have a dream so big that it scares the shit out of you (there’s no point if your supposed dream is not beyond the alter), live it, make a million selling crap, put linda ikeji’s blog out of business.

Am I Qualified?

Am I qualified to think of you

Am I qualified to buy you flowers just because its wednesday

Am I qualified to be the first to call you and last to wish you a good night rest

Am I qualified to laugh with you

Am I qualified to ask you how crazy your day was

Am I qualified to hold your hands while we walk down the street laughing like we just won a lottery ticket

Am I qualified to kiss you in the midst of a hundred million people

Am I qualified to get you angry and be forgiven

Am I qualified to get to know your friends while your friends get to know mine

Am I qualified to get lost while I look into your eyes

Am I qualified to know your likes and dislikes

Am I qualified to be the first you call whenever you are having a bad day or the best of days

Am I qualified to be your 5 while you are my 6

Am I qualified to be called your partner

Am I qualified to be loved by you

Am I qualified to make you smile whenever you think of me

Am I qualified to chew along to your favorite song since I dont know the lyrics

Am I qualified to be stupid for you

Am I qualified to be your personal ”ashewo”

Am I qualified to be given your love

Am I qualified to call you ”a mumu” , ” ode”, ”oniranu”… without you pressing ”P”

Am I qualified to show you love in the most weirdest of ways

Am I qualified to be ”that guy” you talk about with your friends… Not the asshole though

Am I qualified to be your umbrella when it rains

Am I qualified to be your boo baby while you are my baby boo

Am I qualified to call you a ”yeye girl”

Am I qualified to love you

Am I qualified?

Believe to Achieve

Some days, I am depressed, angry at myself and everyone, thinking why it ain’t yet better and I ask myself…

Do you stop believing in the moon when the sun comes up?

Do you stop believing in the sun when the cloud covers it?

Do you stop believing morning shall come when its nightfall?

Do you stop believing afternoon shall come when its morning?

Trees never stop believing rain shall come soon.

The birds have no idea how the day will go. Yet, they fly farther compared to the previous day. All because they believe.

Even if there is a cloud over your aspirations, never stop believing in yourself.

Look around you, look beyond what you see, therein you shall find hope.

If you want to build a mansion start by picking a shovel today.

If you want to be the greatest writer in history, pick a pen and a book, write a word today.

If you want to, Just do it!

Life will always force you to accept its offering, you have to fight to get what you want from it.

Pull your sword, put up your shield, and stand firm because you are an Achilles on the battle field of troy.

Sometimes you will shoot for the skies but still find yourself on the ground, its no time to quit because you believe.

Sometimes you are tired, emotionally disturbed and it seems there is nothing to hold on to, remember… If all MEN were made in the image of God, then there is a God in you. After-all it took HIM more than a day to create the world. That is your hope. Believe

Be patient… Seek for Knowledge… Be Positive… Work hard… Have the right attitude…

Most importantly, Believe.

Believe to Achieve.

PS:

This note was inspired by the dreams, commitments and hard-work of thousands of young people all around the world that have dedicated their lives into making the world a better place by ensuring world peace through effective leadership and cultural understanding.

They call themselves AIESECers, ladies and gentlemen of passion and vision with the aspiration of touching the lives of every young person in the world.

Thank you for contributing your quota into making the world a better place.

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